Most parents want their children o do what they ask (tell) them to do. Do we expect them to “behave” and “obey” 100% of the time? Or do we respect that they may have their desires and opinions?

This does not mean the kids run the show. It just means that how we as parents set up an interaction determines its outcome. If we are positive and engaged, our kids. If we simply expect that they will listen and do what they’re told just because we are the adults and they are the kids, they may comply out of fear or they may push back.

What is the difference between cooperation and compliance?

Cooperation is the process of working together to achieve a goal. Cooperation allows for the participation of all parties, including sharing opinions. There is a relatively even balance of power and control, even if there is a leader.

Compliance is acting according to a rule, order, or demand. Synonyms include “obey” and “adhere”.

Cooperation can be built by providing our kids

• Choices
• Setting clear boundaries and expectations and letting them do things they enjoy.
• Lots of acknowledgement, appreciation, and fun-especially when they are cooperative.
• Asking for their opinions.

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